The other week I rescued a young magpie. It had been attacked by a cat. I used to rescue all sorts of creatures when I was a kid and I’ve had lots of pets in my time. And in the same way that I’ve shaken off partners so I shook off the responsibility of pet […]Read More 173: Not Missing It
It’s three years ago this week since I became single. I’ve always had to instigate breakups because my spineless partners hadn’t the balls to do it themselves. I hated being a meal ticket. This one was no different and the rush of relief I felt was paramount. I’ve not looked back. I hoped it would […]Read More 172: Still Enjoying The Party For One
I stand very firm on the ‘partners as best friends’ set up. NEVER EVER DO THIS. This goes for them being your ‘soul mate’ too. It implies there is one and only one. There isn’t because there is more than one ‘someone’ for everyone. It’s just whether or not you find them and look past […]Read More 171: Partners As Best Friends – Don’t Do It
Sarah Millican the stand up comedian, post divorce, and writing in her book ‘How To Be Champion’ asked the question: ‘When are you not divorced anymore?’ A good question and one with many answers. I suspect it depends on where you stand in the divorce and how you feel about your ex. You may be […]Read More 170: Status Labels – Divorced
I’ve never really wondered why all my relationships turned to mush, and why I’ve ended up single in my 40s. At least, I thought I already knew the answer – that I am really bad at choosing decent partners and ‘happy ever after’ is a myth. In all honestly, this is what I secretly aspired […]Read More 169: Single Is Normal?
I spotted this on Twitter thanks to Professor Paul Dolan, author of ‘Happiness by Design’ and ‘Happy Ever After’. To quote: “Nobody joins Tinder because they’re looking for something,” Rad told Time in 2014. “They join because they want to have fun. It doesn’t even matter if you match because swiping is so fun.” Which […]Read More 168: Reblog: The loneliness of the infinite swipers
A slow realisation has dawned on me over the last few weeks. And I haven’t worked out yet, how to interpret it. I have realised I no longer know what I want. I wonder if I have lost my sense of purpose in the world, my sense of pleasure, or may be it’s just that […]Read More 167: I’m Lost, Or MayBe I’m Found