I stand very firm on the ‘partners as best friends’ set up. NEVER EVER DO THIS. This goes for them being your ‘soul mate’ too. It implies there is one and only one. There isn’t because there is more than one ‘someone’ for everyone. It’s just whether or not you find them and look past […]Read More 171: Partners As Best Friends – Don’t Do It
Sarah Millican the stand up comedian, post divorce, and writing in her book ‘How To Be Champion’ asked the question: ‘When are you not divorced anymore?’ A good question and one with many answers. I suspect it depends on where you stand in the divorce and how you feel about your ex. You may be […]Read More 170: Status Labels – Divorced
I’ve never really wondered why all my relationships turned to mush, and why I’ve ended up single in my 40s. At least, I thought I already knew the answer – that I am really bad at choosing decent partners and ‘happy ever after’ is a myth. In all honestly, this is what I secretly aspired […]Read More 169: Single Is Normal?
A slow realisation has dawned on me over the last few weeks. And I haven’t worked out yet, how to interpret it. I have realised I no longer know what I want. I wonder if I have lost my sense of purpose in the world, my sense of pleasure, or may be it’s just that […]Read More 167: I’m Lost, Or MayBe I’m Found
When I first split from my last ex (officially) in May 2016, I had already shut down. I couldn’t deal with the situation in the way I wanted until August because I was tied to a house rental with him for that four months. What followed, once I had finally got away entirely, was 18 […]Read More 165: Emotionally Un-Available
Never look at the accounts of past dates. I stupidly had a peek at MG’s, and his status is now ‘In A Relationship’. I don’t know why it bothers me. We wouldn’t have worked. His home life was the wrong set up for me. We lived too far apart. We were both financially stressed. I […]Read More 164: Not Progressing
I don’t make New Year Resolutions. At least, I haven’t in some time. I don’t believe that the first day of January is different to any other day of the year. If you need to make a change, do it now. And in any case, resolutions are made to be broken so no one expects […]Read More 162: Time To Put Some Faith in Fate