223: Reblog: The Telegraph: I’m single, 31 – and I’ve quit dating apps for good

Dating apps are an incredibly flawed way to meet people. As the writer of this article says: ‘It hit me that my exes and I likely would never have matched on Hinge: each had something intangible that drew me to them, that’s impossible to convey on a profile.’

If you are looking for something relatable and long-lasting, dating apps are not the way to go. You cannot find ‘the one’ by looking at a handful of photos and reading someone’s, often poorly, crafted opinion of themselves through the medium of a condensed biography.

Relationships don’t develop from the first meet. Good relationships develop over time as you learn about each other, not artificially crafted with sexual attraction in mind (unless you date like I do). Jumping into it, with that intention, sets everyone up for expectation failure.

What we need are ‘dating apps for friends’, for finding people to hang out with because you’re new to the area or want shared interests. And to me that sounds a lot like Twitter. There are people on my Twitter feed I would love to meet and perhaps I even have a tiny crush on.

We really need to get off the apps and onto our shared social media.

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